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One of the biggest obstacles I faced in my battle with booze was dealing with the emotional poison of shame.
I had a huge investment in dealing with shame around my alcohol abuse and the way I used it to self medicate. When I look back it was really the white elephant of my addiction and the underlying cause of most of the suffering.
It underscored the abyss of guilt and wall of secrecy around my ten plus years of pouring alcohol over every single problem I had.
And throw guilt into the picture every decision got incredibly clouded beyond reason. actions became confusing & chaotic beyond understanding.
I wasn’t until I learnt to practice the art of surrender & start showing myself kindness that those walls started to crack.
And the underlying toxic beliefs, negative self talk of “you’re a bad person” that “you’re somehow broken beyond repair”, began to brake down.
And the more I fed THE FEELINGS AND THOUGHTS OF SHAME, the more, MY self-esteem collapse. I Iost any sense of awareness & perspective of what my PURPOSE & VISION FOR MY LIFE WAS.
Shame killed happiness, connection & bombed every decision I tried to make which ultimately nearly destroyed my relationship with myself & my LIFE.
The problem with Shame as an emotion is that it’s very low vibrationally & doesn’t create anything good.
With shame, it keeps you alone, disconnected & in a victim mode. It snowballs and festers with overwhelming misery & intensity the more you feed it & bottle it up in secrecy. But every cloud has a silver lining, & you should never feel hopeless because difficult times always lead to better days. IF you actually do something about this of course.
And that’s the important piece of PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY you must take. It’s not a SHOULD it’s a MUST.
So HOWWW can we be liberated from shame? What did I do?
It starts by being kind to yourself first & SURRENDER- showing yourself empathy.
You need to stop fighting the demon from a place of secrecy and denial.
Get really honest with yourself & your situation. Accept that this is you right now, but it doesn’t have to be.
And with surrender comes the next big thing to getting sober – a willingness to be vulnerable.
And the reality is, you ARE most likely in a pretty vulnerable place right now or have been, you’re just fighting it and resisting the need to open up to people and share about your challenges.
Brene Brown the worlds leader in research on Shame says. Anytime we look at the areas of science, art, business & anywhere we talk about creating new things, incredible things, the one common thread they have had to face, is FAILURE.. again…again and again because nothing new can be created if your not willing to fail. You can’t change your habits and behaviours if you’re not willing to or fear failure.
Vulnerability IS a place of creation & CHANGE.
You can’t create anything new from a place of trying to be perfect, and not be willing to be wrong and make mistakes. Same goes with your habits.
VULNERABILITY is an incredibly powerful emotional resource when you embrace it. You can’t CHANGE your current behaviour if you’re not willing to get vulnerable.
First with yourself & then with those who you need to have as support.
We’ve said surrender with empathy and that requires courage.
The antidote to FEAR is COURAGE. So when you’re afraid to be vulnerable like I was for years, spawned out of fear. There is an assumption you’re being judged or, not being understood, that you are some how a failure, not worthy. It’s NOT true. I can say with confidence from everything I’ve done, learnt, put into practice and witnessed, that by learning to embrace vulnerability builds character. It builds resilience. And your loved ones will RESPECT IT.

Doctor Brene Brown said in one of her Ted talks and I quote:
“Vulnerabilty is the birthplace of Innovation, Creativity & Change Cardinal Rule”.
SO when you open your soul to vulnerability and share your yourself truly, this is courage magnified TEN fold.
For me learning to be vulnerable meant reaching out to someone I trusted most, that didn’t judge me and held space for me. That just happened to be My wife! From that place I was able to share my story, challenges, and fear around my shame & guilt and ultimately….. CHANGE!
This helped me start to overcome the shame from a place of EMPATHY.
It wasn’t easy for sure, But it works. It’s my experience. All acts of greatness, from all walks of life came from their challenges, failures and lessons.
In the words of Tony Robbins “no matter how many mistakes you make or how slow your progress is, you’re still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.”
So I Encourage you to choose one person you trust and start a dialogue and through that, begin turning shame into courage so you too can change.If you’d like to learn more. An awesome place to start is with our FREE training on the 5 Steps to Killing the Cravings – & how to quit the booze for good and reclaim your life. go to beyondboozeprogram.com/webinar

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